She Says – Expectations

Hello Dear Ones!

In our cover post we provided a multiple definition of the word ‘expectation’. I thought to include it again here for your review:

WorldNet Search defines ‘expectation’ as:

Notice I didn’t include the mathematical aspect of the term – not one I’ll discuss with you here!

As I began my spiritual journey, much about cause and effect seemed to be bantered back and forth. Some theories agreed with the concept; some did not; others took a neutral perspective. Whether you agree with the theory – hence you believe it – or you do not and therefore it is not in your belief system, the final impact is what you expect. Either you expect a result and look to find it, or you do not acknowledge that there may be a result and are always surprised with the unfolding of life experiences.

Again, referring back to our cover post: “If you follow the ideas of ‘Law of Attraction‘, then all of our expectations are fulfilled; it’s just that sometimes we’re not aware of what our expectations truly are.  Expectation can sometimes be a loaded word, especially if we find a disconnect between what we ‘want’ to happen, and what we ‘expect’ to happen.”

That’s where my target discussion is for today: the dichotomy, or disconnect, between the desire and the expectation of the anticipated result.

How often have you thought to yourself: “Oh, I’d like to have this…or do that…or go here…or be there…” only to find that none of those expectations ever arise? Ya, that’s a disconnect between a ‘want’ or desire and the expected outcome – which is failure to achieve the desired outcome. Having said that, many people make bold statements of what they desire, yet there is no passionate expectation for a positive outcome. Sure, you may say, you want to win the lottery. Yet on a deep inner level, you really say to yourself: “I know I bought a ticket, but I’ll never win the lottery. What are the odds that my numbers will be drawn. Oh, but wouldn’t that be wonderful to win? The things I could buy with that money! Yet I don’t really expect to have the winning ticket. But wouldn’t it be nice…”

So you go out and buy a ticket. Yet while you are buying it, you are paying attention to the cranky lady next to you who is chewing out her teenager for what she perceives to be his/her slovenly appearance, or the clerk one till over who’s had a rough day and is grumbling to a co-worker about how tough life is, or you put on the wrong shoes this morning and your feet are sore … or, or, or …

Now what is the Universe supposed to do when you give it mixed messages like that? On one hand you ask for a winning ticket. The Universe is ready to comply but is confused when you are not feeling joyous with expectations regarding the outcome, being more focused on the challenges of the people around you. The Universe was ready to say OKAY – here’s a winning ticket for you! Yet you are not vibrating (a commonly quoted Abraham word) with all positive thoughts and feelings of appreciation for the bounty and blessings already in your life.

To do a very ‘Mike’ thing … here are a few Abraham quotes on the topic of vibration:

If you want more than you believe you can achieve, you’re out of balance….

…when you are choosing things that feel good to you while you think them or while you focus upon them, then you are choosing a vibration that matches your Source — and only things that are up to speed with that then have access to you. Isn’t that nice?

“Become a person who appreciates.” That is the secret to life. Without knowing anything about Law of Attraction, without knowing anything about vibration, without ever knowing anything about anything, you would thrive, you would fulfill your reason for being, you would be an extension of who you really are….

If somebody else doesn’t get something, it’s not because you or anyone kept them from it. It’s because they are holding themselves in a vibration that is disallowing…

nothing can prevent you from the fulfillment of your own desires—only you. And only you can do it through offering a vibration that is not in alignment with your desires. And, your emotions are telling you in every moment whether or not you are allowing or resisting…

Here is one more aspect of this issue that comes into play – DOUBT:

Doubt is the absence of trust; disbelief; wanting one thing but at a deep inner level truly expecting something less. When it appears as though our plans are going awry or the outcomes of our desires are not manifesting at all or not as quickly as we would like, for some the natural response is doubt, for others it’s anger. Both doubt and anger have the main ingredient of fear within them: fear that our expectations will not be realized. Once the fear in whatever form you experience surfaces, your vibrational rate has lowered, your expectations have been reduced to suspicion or less than what you are wanting.

Desire + Doubt = ‘Less than the best’ or Negative Expectation & Outcome

Keeping an intention of the wonderful knowing that your desire shall be forthcoming for you and truly trusting in that outcome is the energy that ensures its arrival!

Desire + Joyous Belief/Inner Trust = ‘The highest’ or Positive Expectation & Outcome

Here are a few more Abraham quotes on expectation:

…there are only two ways to bring yourself into alignment: Either raise your expectation to match your desire—or lower your desire to match your expectation…

expectation is a focus with a vibration that permits the receiving of what you’re focused upon—and, you expect things, both wanted and unwanted. 2005-01-08

expectation, whether it is wanted or unwanted, is a powerful point of attraction… Your expectation is always what you believe. But the word expectation does imply more what you are wanting than what you are not wanting. It is a more positive word than it is a negative word, but of course, you could expect…

Expectation indicates the juncture between where you are and where you want to be… Where you want to be, is your desire, and where you are, is your Set-point or habit of thought. And somewhere, in there, is what we would call expectation. Expectation, whether it is wanted or unwanted, is a powerful point of attraction…

When old beliefs resurface to slow down the progress of intentional trust and inner knowing, when those old beliefs prevent you from vibrating at the wonderful match to your dreams and desires, finding ways to increase your vibration to a higher level is a terrific alternative – a way to bring those desires to you sooner. Here’s how. Remember standing in line to buy your lottery ticket while the lady near you was chewing out her child? Rather than matching the negative of someone else’s life drama, imagine yourself hugging them both. Envision them forgiving each other for the harsh words and laughing about the foolishness of their trivial squabble. Ask the  grumbling clerk at the next till to tell you about the best part of their day – and really listen to what s/he has to share! And when those shoes you have on are expressing their pressure upon your feet, be grateful for the gift of the shoes keeping you warm and dry … and if that doesn’t work, envision the joy of the person who may appreciate them when you leave them near the spot where one of your city’s street people might find them.

It takes practice. If you’ve lived most of your life holding to old beliefs and a more negative perspective on the world in which you live, you’ll not likely be ready to buy lottery tickets with a 100% certain knowledge that the winnings will be forthcoming. Yet the more you practice, the more the results will continue to delight you – smaller things at first, and then greater and greater outcomes over time. It’s worth the journey.

And by the way, may I suggest that it is not just ‘things’ that we desire. A Twitter friend of mine – Cindy Teevens – sent this wise post out: “We don’t want things, people, or events. We want the feeling we mistake them for.”

Some more inspiring quotes to close today’s post:

You will become as small as your controlling desire, as great as your dominant aspiration. ~ James Allen

There is no difference between a pessimist who says, “oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything,” and an optimist who says, “don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.” Either way, nothing happens. ~ Yvon Choinard, founder of Patagonia

‘I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles.’ ~ Anais Nin

Have a fabulous week, and expect the very best! You are worth it!

In Light and Laughter,



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