He Says, She Says… Embracing Perfection

Hello, Dear Reader:

What does it mean to be ‘perfect’?  To some this appellation implies a ‘best possible’, whether it be a perfect day, a perfect moment, a perfect meal…  To others perfection can only be a goal, something that can never be achieved or attained.  As such there are those who would suggest we not even try.  In his book ‘The Bridge Across Forever‘, author Richard Bach described his search and failure to find what he considered to be the ‘perfect woman’.  He eventually came to realize that his goal was an impossible dream, that his perfect woman was, in his words, ‘a peacock’.  When he surrendered this dream he found instead the love of his life, Leslie Parrish.

Wiktionary defines perfection as:



perfection (plural perfections)

  1. The quality or state of being perfect or complete, so that nothing requisite is wanting; entire development; consummate culture, skill, or moral excellence; the highest attainable state or degree of excellence; maturity; as, perfection in an art, in a science, or in a system; perfection in form or degree; fruits in perfection.
  2. A quality, endowment, or acquirement completely excellent; an ideal; faultlessness; especially, the divine attribute of complete excellence.
    What tongue can her perfections tell?Sir P. Sidney
  • To perfection, in the highest degree of excellence; perfectly; as, to imitate a model to perfection.”
  • Seth discussed perfection in his book ‘The Nature of Personal Reality’ in the following terms:

    “Love does not demand sacrifice. Those who fear to affirm their own being also fear to let others live for themselves. You do not help your children by keeping them chained to you, but you do not help your aged parents either by encouraging their sense of helplessness. The ordinary sense of communication given you through your creaturehood, if spontaneously and honestly followed, would solve many of your problems. Only repressed communication leads to violence. The natural force of love is everywhere within you, and the normal methods of communication are always meant to bring you in greater contact with your fellow creatures.

    “Love yourselves and do yourselves just honor, and you will deal fairly with others. When you say ‘no,’ or deny, you always do so because in your mind and feelings, a present situation, or a proposed one, falls far short of some ideal. The refusal is always in response to something that is considered, at least, to be a greater good. If you do not have too-rigid ideas of perfection, then ordinary denial serves a quite practical purpose. But never negate the present reality of yourself because you compare it to some idealized perfection.

    “Perfection is not being, for all being is in a state of becoming. This does not mean that all being is in a state of becoming perfect, but in a state of becoming more itself. Other emotions are based on love, and in one way or another they all relate to it, and all are methods of returning to it and expanding its capacities.

    “… You must first love yourself before you love another.

    “By accepting yourself and joyfully being what you are, you fulfill your own abilities, and your simple presence can make others happy. You cannot hate yourself and love anyone else. It is impossible. You will instead project all the qualities you do not think you possess upon someone else, do them lip service, and hate the other individual for possessing them. Though you profess to love the other, you will try to undermine the very foundations of his or her being.

    “When you love others, you grant them their innate freedom and do not cravenly insist that they always attend you. There are no divisions to love. There is no basic difference between the love of a child for a parent, a parent for a child, a wife for a husband, a brother for a sister. There are only various expressions and characteristics of love, and all love affirms. It can accept deviations from the ideal vision without condemning them. It does not compare the practical state of the beloved’s being with the idealized perceived one that is potential.

    “In this vision, the potential is seen as present, and the distance between the practical and the ideal forms no contradiction, since they coexist.” ~ The Nature of Personal Reality, session 674.

    By contrast, in Session 2 of the Gradius and Ragon sessions on consciouscreation.com they describe perfection in this way:

    “Denial, Acceptance, Perfection, Self-Awareness, and Diligence

    The denial of any one thing is the denial of the whole. And this is also why, in your work to achieve this integration and this larger experience of the awareness of conscious creation within your physical reality, you must accept and lovingly allow all of the parts of the self. For the same principle is operational. To deny the part is to deny the whole. You can and should assume that every detail of your creation (that is to say, your experience) is precisely placed, chosen, and enacted for your highest understanding. So that denial, judgment, or separation from any of these details denies you the experience of the higher understanding.

    This is the perfection. In accepting the perfection you are accepting your power. Whenever you reject the perfection you move to powerlessness. And while this explanation will seem quite simple in your terms, the experience of the concept can be profound indeed. This is why the ultimate task of making choices becomes intrinsically wedded to your experienced outcomes. If you can allow yourselves to accept each moment, EACH moment, EACH thought, EACH event and experience in your life, no matter how minute, to be the messenger for you, then you can choose in each of these moments to claim the message and exalt it, to accept the message and change it, or simply to allow the message to reveal the deeper meanings of the self and the larger intentions which you seek to know and carry out.

    The advantage of this approach is that it removes you entirely from the old rational mind set (which looks outside of the self for evidence) and brings the power of the rational mind to the inner self to apply the evidence and information toward the desired outcome. To some it could be considered that this is simply a new form of manipulation, or what your psychologists would call behavior modification. However, it is much deeper than this, for it deals directly with integration of new understandings with the expansion of what is consciously known within the awareness of the physically focused self. So it is not merely rote, it is not merely following a new set of rules, rather it is the spontaneous allowing of discovery and exploration with a specific intention for a specific outcome, result, or experience.

    Of course how you choose to use this information is totally up to you. If you simply use it as another way or means to reject the self you will not make much progress. If, on the other hand, you use it to unite the self under the joyful banner of self acceptance, then you can expect to reap significant rewards. In most cases, among the peoples in your physical reality, the diligence required for this process is perceived as too dear a price to pay, too cumbersome, and too time consuming. However it is our observation that it is none of these. And that, in fact, just the opposite is true.

    The difficulty arises in the need for diligence, for within your culture at this time there is a huge and pervasive push towards distraction which can make it difficult for individuals to create for themselves the opportunity for this diligence. But this does not mean it is not possible. Again it is a matter of desire and intention and the will to know the self.”

    With that in mind we decided to make the topic of this week’s “He Says, She Says…” post, “Embracing Perfection“.


    Follow these links to read what He Says/She Says: Marcia’s View / Mike’s View

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